Friday, November 9, 2018

Good Music and An Interview! (7QT)

This past week I have been working on a playlist. Very excited to share it with you, along with my liner notes.  WHEEE..... I can't help my passion when it comes to a few things in life. Where writing and music overlap, you absolutely have my heart.  Below that, we have Foster/ Adoptive Parents The Williams' Reflection on the Drug Culture and working with special needs children in a foster home situation.



 Bob Dylan- Spanish Boots of Spanish Leather
This is definitely a classic, and the tune and lyrics elevate it to rockstar status.  I feel like there are some really good Dylan covers out there, but this needs to be left alone.

Over the Rhine- Ohio
This expertly talented duo brings emotion to a time and place.  I have seen this band perform live more times than anyone else, other than Ben Folds! (And I've seen him live seven times!)

The Old 97's- Designs on You
This song resonated with me when I found it, via recommendations on Spotify.  A classic crush- infatuation scenario.

The Smith's- Frankly Mr. Shankly
Longtime fan of this band and song. Oh the MEMORIES

Fleet Foxes- The Cascades
This is actually an instrumental song, and it's from one of my longtime favorite bands.  I just love it.

M. Ward- Let's Dance
I was fortunate to see M. Ward in concert at a free show in NYC before She and Him even existed.  I knew he was under appreciated at the time, and my hunch proved true!

Blind Pilot- 3 Rounds and a Sound
Funnily enough, I have just discovered this Portland indie band recently, but my admiration has bloomed.  Blind Pilot earns the title of "can't stop thinking about you." So many good songs from this band.i

Darlingside- Singularity
To be brutally honest, the first listen made me think of a pretentious Sufjan Stevens meets Hey Marseilles. I fell hard in love with this song "Singularity" after contemplating the Sci-Fi inspired  lyrics. Honestly, they are very (warning: using this word now),... sexy and I don't know which one of the band members wrote them, but read somewhere they all do. ah, well....  The tune and magnificent and unexpected arrangement just sealed the deal for me. haha.

The Killers- Romeo and Juliet
This cover of an Indigo Girls song came on my Spotify radio at a time when I was really obsessed with reading and the library and nothing else could quell my depressive funk. I had a crush on the library and it was all I wanted to do and I didn't ever want to come home. I was SAD.  This song cured it so much for me.  These lyrics express more in one line than most can express in an entire paragraph.

Mipso- Do You Want Me?
My long over due love letter: I found you on youtube about a year ago,   I fell in love with this video of Bad Penny then saw you were listed in Rolling Stone about the same time you were on my radar. I then saw your sweet UNC Chapel Hill band in concert at the 3 Sister Bluegrass Festival in Chattanooga, and you were all cuter than I expected you to be. You subsequently came out with this video Call Your Girlfriend, and I was hooked! For life! I hope all of my friends, family, and blog readers go forth and buy/stream/download all of your music because now I'm ecstatic. To quote my brother after seeing you live "Libby never misses a note, and every song has more hooks than you expect." I'm especially partial to a hot and sexy bluegrass frontman (who can play the guitar!).  Also, love the mandolin (my Dad plays bluegrass mandolin, guitar, and harmonica- excellent picking).  I get you.  do you get me?

Anna Leone- Into the Cold
I discovered this Scandinavian artist well over a year ago, and I fell in love with a few of her songs. This is a good one.  She is so beautiful as well!  Please check her out if you don't mind.

Regina Spektor- The Sword and the Pen
When I'm feeling absolutely nothing, I turn on anti-folk artist  Regina Spektor, and she gets me.  My heart strings, my dry emotional LANDSCAPE. She is sort of the interpreter of maladies for much of my life. She is especially good to listen to when writing.  Writing fiction, especially. Love her.

Ok Go- Oh Lately It's So Quiet
Again, I got hooked to this song because of the lyrics. "Who's house are you haunting tonight?" So good!        :)

Modest Mouse- Night on the Sun
I love it when, like Passenger, I fall in love with one song from a band, then I am pleasantly surprised that many of their other songs are just as good. That was the case with this song.

Death Cab for Cutie- Crooked Teeth
Death Cab rocked my world in college. I love many of their songs, and this is a good throwback to a better (ish) time in Pop/Rock/indie (their early stuff) music.  I screamed through a concert of their's in LA because let me tell you Benjamin Gibbard held a candle to Sufjan Stevens

The White Stripes- I Want to Be the Boy to Warm Your Mother
Stephen has been trying to get me into the White Stripes for a long time. I finally fell headlong into love when I heard this! Musicality and arrangement top-notch.

The Airborne Toxic Event- Sometime Around Midnight
Here is an example of a song I thought was coming from some epic famous band like U2 or The Cure.  When I sat down and contemplated it, I couldn't believe I had never heard of this band! So good.

Regina Spektor- Somedays
Phenomenal lyricist.  Delivery is everything. Emotion another level.

Portugal. the Man- So Young
My heart explodes for this song.  I have probably listened to it 1,000 times since the beginning of this Summer.

Anna Leone- My Soul I
This is my favorite song by Anna Leone, Scandanavian, and specifically Swedish, artist extraordinaire.

Belle and Sebastian- Piazza, New York Catcher
This song played on repeat, everyday forever.

Bright Eyes- First Day of My Life
Because, yes.  Always.


Now, I want to include this interview I set up with my parents, to discuss the drug culture in our country today and its effect on recent generations. I was hoping to publish this as a part of the #write31days challenge, but I also think the timing of this is good as well. I loved hearing their answers, and I hope you will find this as interesting as I did.  My parents Wendy and Henry Williams have had over 35 foster children, and they adopted one of them.  They are experts on this topic, as my Dad is also a physician with decades of experience, as well as a Masters in Bioethics.

1. What is is like to adopt a child with special needs?

It offers an entirely new dimension for family life.
It helps family members learn and develop empathy for one who may lack certain things that others take for granted, who requires new kinds of effort in raising the child.
Adopting or fostering is a mission project that a family can do together.
Family members learn ways to care for, spend time with the new child.
Doing interim foster care teaches a family how to celebrate and how to grieve, such as when a child has to leave and is loved.
Bonding is needed and often comes through the family's combined efforts. New experiences come as a result of the child's personality and interests. For example, a 'need for speed' or just movement, might get the family into dirt bikes, jet ski, four wheeling, new sports actives, etc. Family experiences can be shared with other families, especially those who have taken on adopted children of their own; activities are done tighter and everybody learns new perspectives. It is challenging.

A special needs child may take more time and energy than other kids in the family, sometimes at their expense. Special medical care may be needed, anything from heart surgery to cleft palate repair to physical therapy, leg braces, etc.  

Behavior may be a problem- erratic, oppositional-defiant, negativity, problems with bonding, school issues- finding the right school, trying to homeschool, IEP's (individual education plan for kids with learning differences).  A huge factor to consider is that adoption and foster care can help provide alternatives to abortion which is a holocaust in need of remedy.

Our own family has been impacted by nieces and nephews that were adopted for special need situation. We are thankful for the opportunity to see these kids grow up in Christian homes.

2. How have drugs influenced children taken into the home?

This question brings up several possible scenarios.  One is drug exposure in utero, such as alcohol or cocaine. Fetal alcohol syndrome can cause delayed development, mental retardation, or learning differences, behavior issues.  Cocaine can lead to these issues plus irritability, poor impulse control, ADHD, emotional ups and downs. The problems can be lifetime issues.

Prescription drugs are often used to help with some of the above mentioned issues. However they may not work as well, say in a cocaine exposed child as they do in a typical ADHD child. Sometimes multiple drug regimens are used with limited success.  Drugs may have paradoxical effects, as when Benadryl given for allergy or to try to help with sleep or sleepiness caused severe irritability. Seizures may be more likely to occur if certain drug exposures are present.

The drug culture around us today is ominous and deadly. Opioid drug use has become very prevalent, and every year thousands of young people die of drug overdoses, usually from opioids like heroin and oxycodone.  These drugs are additive and cause desperate drug-seeking behavior in teenagers and adults who have exposure for any length of time to them.

Doctors 10-15 years ago were encouraged to be more liberal in treating pain, drug companies promoted narcotics, and heroin from Mexico was widely distributed and was relatively cheap compared to some prescription narcotics.  The pendulum is swinging back now in term of physician attitudes as reins are being applied to this epidemic.

3. How has the drug culture influenced certain generations?

This would be a fascinating and complex history to explore.  Alcohol was the drug of choice of a previous generation. Overuse and alcoholism have devastated individuals and families. The 1960's saw a new way of drug use and freer attitudes toward illicit drug use, from marijuana to hallucinogens to cocaine, ecstasy, and opioids.  Today the most deadly drugs are opioids (narcotics), and these probably are having the most negative impact on families.  Adopted children and especially those in foster care from various difficult backgrounds may be more susceptible to problems related to these drugs.

4. What are some repercussions of the drug culture?
Families in Crisis
Crime (often related to addiction and drug-seeking) and imprisonment
Drug seeking
Other mental/emotional disorders
Economic ruin
Rebellion, leaving home, homelessness

5. Do you have advice for people interested in fostering children, with reflections on drug issues?

Adoption and foster care are sorely needed.
Many foster home situations are not good, and kids need an alternative
Get informed as well as possible. Go to websites on adoption, foster care, drug issues. is an excellent resource. Know what to expect! 
Look into "Safe Families" concept that Bethany sponsors. 
Government resources like Health and Human Services can be checked. Our local HHS office was very helpful in offering educational classes and opportunities for foster care, and learning what to expect in special needs children.  
Taking in sibling groups as well as individual children was considered. Learning about this can help a family see its own limitations and find the right fit. Talk to your other kids about it. Spouses need to be on the same page before diving in. Join or form a support group.  PRAY!

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