Monday, May 28, 2018

Teaching Self-Control to Children

Just popping in here because God has laid some things on my heart, and I thought it would be better to share than to pretend that this isn't going on.

Every time we go to the doctor, the kids are given a check-up, and I am given a form to fill out to give the doctor some idea of their development.

My Dad is a doctor, but the funny thing is, I have always been irked by "Physicals." What about have a Spiritual check-up?

The reason I am bothered by the concept of only checking the child's physical health (or even some woo-woo 'holistic' healthcare), is that I think certain concepts should be rote in a child's mind and heart by a certain age.

Your child is "Developmentally Delayed" if they do not understand the following concepts:

1.  Self-control

You know the one marshmallow now or two marshmallows later?  Our kids get a treat after Mass if they're good.  They have been known to hold the bag of candy all through Mass.  I don't think I would have been able to do that as a child, but I'm glad my children are learning how to sit still and kneel by going to weekly Mass.  Does your example of self-control rub off on your children? :)

2. Telling the truth

The conscience is the most important thing that develops in a child.  If they do not learn to tell the truth, and to let their conscience be their guide, they are emotionally immature.  A child must have a yearning for the truth at a very early age, or they are missing something essential in their make-up.

3. Patience

Children should learn to be calm, wait out a conversation if provoked, count to 10 if angry.  If impatience crops up again and again, or if anger gets a foothold, a priest may be seen for the casting out of demons. Counseling is always a good idea as well. (I have been to many counseling sessions- it is good for everyone!)

4. Sharing and Getting Along With Others

Your child may not be up to speed with peers if he or she is unable to take turns, be generous, kind and unselfish.

All in all, learning to wait with peace and joy and live life with the fruit of the Spirit is the best way to raise your children.  {Correct me if I'm wrong}

If your negative attitude is rubbing off on your children or the people around you, I strongly urge you to get counseling.  Your children are too precious to hinder in any way, most especially in this way.

If someone tries to tell you that you are immature, delayed, or behind in some way, don't let them bully you.  God judges the heart.  He sees what is inside.  I wish someone had told me that I would be bullied as a young Mom by other mothers who thought they had this parenting game figured out better than I do (Even mothers with children who are younger than mine).

"Do NOT let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, conduct, love, faith, and PURITY."  1 tim. 4:12

~God Bless~

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